| Suddenly on my own after seven years dating | Send to a friend |
| Friday, 07 October 2011 21:09 |
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But seven years after that magical day, my beloved Ruben dumped me. “I think I’m in love with this French girl,” he stuttered on the phone. What on God’s green earth? I suddenly became single for the first time in my adult life. I couldn’t believe it but I had to deal with it. After endless tearful nights, I came up with a game plan for how a lady should deal with a bad break up. Celebrate your freedom! Drink a glass of champagne, put your best dress on and listen to a female empowerment anthem like Beyonce’s Who Runs the World. Pretty soon, you will realise that your ex is a loser. Update your status on Facebook to “footloose and fancy free” and look forward to messages from all those guys who have been secretly in love with you for years. Now that you’re single, you can finally grant them their dream date. Nobody is calling? Don’t worry. Your ‘fans’ need some time to work up the courage to contact a woman like you. Meanwhile, use the spare time to do some research about the scarlet woman who stole your man. In my case, the results made me laugh. Ruben’s new flame was no Wema Sepetu or Jokate Mwegelo. She was a plump 19-year-old kid with bad skin. No sooner had I found out who my ex’s new girlfriend was than my phone rang and it was Chris from the pub. He was a Tanzanian hottie that I had met a few weeks back and now he wanted to take me for dinner. It would be my first date after seven years of ‘marriage’. I couldn’t believe that so soon after I had broken up with Ruben, there was another man on my doorstep. Don’t panic. Call your best friend. Mine acted like a cheerleader, which is exactly what I needed at the time. “No excuses Stella, you are definitely going for dinner with this guy. Just put a sexy dress on and prepare yourself for a fun night out. This might be the perfect therapy for you, my dear,” she said. Still, I worried about that date because I wasn’t even sure what kind of man I liked after 7-years with the same guy, and at the end of it, a break up. I decided to take a leap of faith. Try a cake you never tried before. If a businessman dumped you, date an artist. If you broke up with a guy from your home area, try a foreigner or at least someone from another region. You will benefit from expanding your horizons and becoming more open minded. I switched from a German teacher to a Tanzanian mountain climber. Not surprisingly, my ‘first date’ after seven years was just perfect. Tasty food (he paid), smart conversation (I laughed a lot) and finally he kissed me. It was an amazing night. I will definitely date him again. I’ve completely forgotten about Robert … Ralph…wait, what was the name of my ex again? Add this page to your favorite Social Bookmarking websites           |
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