Helping children overcome the fear of public speaking

Confidence, often considered a vital attribute in navigating the complexities of life, appears to pose a significant challenge for many children, especially when it comes to public speaking engagements like presentations, debates, or classroom discussions.

This reluctance to speak up can stem from various factors deeply rooted in their experiences and perceptions.

Emily Evarist, 10, says that fear of judgement from peers, teachers, or even family members cripples her confidence, making her hesitant to express herself openly.

She confesses; "I worry that others will laugh at me if I make a mistake."

On the other hand, insufficient preparation often undermines a child's self-assurance. Without adequate knowledge or understanding of the topic, they feel ill-equipped to participate effectively.

For his part, Jacob John, 11, shares that he never feels like he knows enough to confidently participate in discussions, which makes him hesitate.

According to experts, some students are not confident because of previous negative experiences. Past failures or embarrassing moments can haunt children, wear down their confidence, and make them wary of similar situations in the future.

Salome Abood, 10, for example, recounts how she once hesitated during a presentation, and everyone laughed. “I never want that to happen again; that’s why I never raise my hand during class sessions," she shares.

Some children are naturally introverted, finding solace in silence rather than seeking the spotlight. While introversion isn't inherently detrimental, it can hinder their willingness to engage in public speaking activities.

"I'm just shy, and I prefer to stay quiet," Matthew Ngwande, 10, admits.

The pressure to excel and the fear of falling short of expectations can also paralyse children, preventing them from taking risks or showcasing their abilities.

"I fear making mistakes. I want everything to be perfect. I know it’s hard, but it has been tormenting me. I always struggle whenever I need to share something with my classmates or explain something to the teacher," Chloe Fabian,12, says.

Joshua Kunga, 10, on the other hand, says no one ever encourages him to speak up. "They usually say, 'Leave it to the older kids.'"

His comment denotes that a lack of encouragement or opportunities to practice public speaking can contribute to a child's insecurity and reluctance to assert themselves.

Constantly comparing oneself to peers perceived as more confident or capable can diminish a child's self-esteem and deter them from stepping out of their comfort zone.

"I always think others are better than me, so why bother trying?" Lilian Thomson, 11, confesses.

Albert Maundi, a primary school teacher in Dar es Salaam, says that some students may lack confidence in expressing themselves, especially during class discussions.

Encouraging them to share their thoughts in a supportive atmosphere can aid in overcoming this reluctance and foster self-assurance.

"Certain students might feel a bit shy about speaking up, especially during class talks. But when we create a friendly atmosphere, nudging them gently to share their ideas, it can really boost their confidence and make them more willing to participate," he elaborates.

Mr Eliud Maseko, also a teacher, shares that confidence varies among students, with some needing encouragement to speak up in class while others may benefit from taking on leadership roles.

"Adapting our approach to meet individual needs can help students develop confidence in different areas," he says.

According to him, confidence levels vary among students, with each having unique needs. "Adapting our approach to support individual students, whether it's encouraging participation or fostering leadership skills, can contribute to their overall confidence and development."

Teacher Majuto Habib explains that while students may experience moments of self-doubt, it's crucial to help them identify their strengths and potential.

"While moments of self-doubt are natural, it's important to help students recognise their strengths and potential. Setting achievable goals, celebrating progress, and encouraging reflection are all strategies to enhance their confidence and motivation."

Ms Aireth Laurent, a teacher in Dar es Salaam, says building confidence is an ongoing process that requires patience and support.

By modelling confidence, offering praise, and providing growth opportunities, educators can help students develop the self-assurance needed for academic and personal success.

According to the teacher, developing confidence is a continual process that demands patience and encouragement.

"Through demonstrating confidence ourselves, acknowledging achievements, and offering chances for growth, we as teachers play a pivotal role in empowering students to cultivate the self-assurance necessary for both academic and personal triumphs," she notes.

Ms Zena Mrisho, a parent, says that emphasising the importance of effort and growth over perfection can positively influence students' confidence levels.

Encouraging them to learn from mistakes and persevere through difficulties can empower them to believe in their capacity for success.

"Emphasising the significance of effort and growth rather than perfection can truly boost students' confidence. Encouraging them to view mistakes as stepping stones to learning and to persist through challenges helps foster a strong belief in their ability to succeed," she shares.

Another parent, Mr Tesha Ibrahim, says many students doubt their capabilities when faced with new tasks or challenges.

He says offering opportunities for them to succeed in manageable steps and celebrating their accomplishments can gradually boost their confidence and resilience.

"Many students tend to second-guess themselves when faced with something new. Breaking down tasks into manageable steps and cheering them on for each accomplishment can help them grow more confident and resilient over time," says Mr Tesha.

Fr Leons Maziku, a psychologist from Saint Augustine University of Tanzania, says that in nurturing confidence in children, it's crucial to provide a supportive environment where they feel valued and accepted, regardless of their successes or failures.

He says encouraging exploration, setting achievable goals, and celebrating effort over outcomes are essential steps in fostering self-belief.

“By promoting positive self-talk, teaching problem-solving skills, and modelling confidence and resilience, carers and educators play a vital role in shaping children's self-perception and capabilities,” he notes.

The psychologist goes on to explain that creating opportunities for autonomy, offering constructive feedback, and cultivating a nurturing environment further empower children to embrace challenges and pursue their passions with confidence.

“Ultimately, by prioritising the holistic development of children's self-esteem and resilience, we lay the foundation for their future success and well-being,” notes Fr Maziku.