Give her financial autonomy she deserves

Many are times when women have no power to spend their own money.

The in-built notion in men that they "own" women body, spirit, and soul along with all they have is simply convoluted and silly.

For example, my wife earns her own salary and unless we have something that we collectively need to undertake jointly, it would be unreasonable to put a condition on how she should spend her money.

One fact in life is that women are better savers. I have had to go back to my women for support.

Women have their own secret coffers that come in handy during a crisis and many men will tell you as much.

It is common sense that men are never liquid most of the time. I have this feeling that we tread on women because we have deep-rooted psychological ineptitude that manifests itself in the form of an inferiority complex.

Hostilities towards women come from the fact we, as men, sometimes sweep tenets of good reasoning because women quietly intimidate us which comes out as guised inferiority complex.

There are complaints by men that women use their money by supporting their families at home, buying expensive clothes or on makeup.

Look at it this way, unlike women, a man leaves the office. Walks to the nearest bar. Thereafter, takes mchemsho wa samaki and several beers.

He probably buys a couple of beers for his cronies and bribes his favourite barmaid. At the end of it, he will have spent some serious amounts of money.

In the meantime, his wife will be watching TV yawning, waiting for him to come home.

As soon as he enters the door, he will be throwing tantrums that he is tired of being fed rice and beans.

He has forgotten that the amount of money he has spent in the bar could fill her otherwise empty fridge with fish, meat, and other foods.

He also has forgotten that it is the woman who has all along planned what the kids eat on a daily basis.